That’s what it all boils down to. I read a book called Psycho cybernetics by Dr. Maxwell Maltz and in it he describes the issue of self image (among other things). He’s a plastic surgeon and even when he performs the surgery the patient will still feel inadequate or even worse.
What’s really going on is your subconscious image of yourself. If by some reason you believe yourself to be ugly, then it will be hard to change this pattern. Authority, repetition and impact are what make a lasting impression on us growing up. If you were told that you are worthless as a kid you will grow up with the same thoughts. Now the damage here is that you’re an adult but you’re carrying around the mind set of a kid.
Think of when you first started PMO, maybe you got curious and starting doing some research. Eventually that evolved into when you got stressed or when you were bored or even when their was nothing better to do. Well there’s definitely a lot more to do than wasting an hour at home staring at your computer.
Think about how it helped you out when you first started. If you had taken all that wasted time and applied it to something else would your life be better? An hour a day for even a year is 365 hours or about 20 days (18.25) That’s two weeks of fapping. That’s two weeks of your life you will never get back.
Now think of where you are now and where you’re heading. Do you still see yourself as that person? As someone that can just fap the day away? Don’t you have more responsibilities now? Isn’t there something better you could be doing? You need a reason why. You must believe you can and you need a better image of yourself.
Socially awkward virgin that no one likes? Who told you this? Are they still right? Do you have even one friend? What do they think of you?
You can’t expect to become a celebrity over night but you need to work at it. Can’t talk to girls? Start off with talking with the cashier. They have to talk to you. Then move on to others, etc. That’s how the game goes. You can’t hit a home run if you’re at home fapping.
You’re not the past, you’re not who you used to be. You’re not your mistakes but the resources gleamed from it. The only one stopping you from achieving your goals is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself.
Replace negativity with positivity. Do you look in the mirror and think you look like shit? Find one thing you like about yourself and then make the change. Are you overweight? Learn how to eat right, not just some diet. Exercise, live right and live the life of your dreams.
Think of it like this, will you identify as the addict? The person that has no power over the circumstances of his life? Someone in denial, that blames others, that’s manipulative or will you identify as the recovering. Someone that gets better each day instead of worse.
It’s like if you smoke cigarettes. You might not notice the difference at first, you might smoke more but over time you’re killing yourself (maybe not that extreme with nofap) you’re wasting time and resources and you’re not getting anything from doing it. Don’t cheat yourself for a few seconds of so called pleasure when you deserve a lifetime of happiness.
Source: Self Image