Start NoFap with a conviction. Have a burning desire for it. For me it was to stop pleasuring myself because I constantly kept doing it and never got any from women. 84 days later I lost my virginity. Now I am more focused, determined, motivated, no anxiety, more social, quit taking adderall, stopped playing video games, reek of masculine alpha body language, am more poised, look people in the eye when talking, and am noticed by more women and respected by more men. I FEEL the difference that NoFap has brought to me, and whatever any lame random fuck says otherwise about it being Placebo, Broscience, or bullshit, I let them make up for my lost Faps while I continue with my improved life.
The dangerous times are when you are home, alone, bored, or in private with nothing to do.
You aren’t “TRYING” NoFap. You’re DOING NoFap. You either DO IT or you FAIL because you lack the discipline, willpower, and are addicted to pleasuring yourself because you can’t get it from females IRL. Start NoFap with a solid plan and either execute it or don’t bother. Before in March 2012 I “TRIED” NoFap and I fapped every week or two with superset fap sessions in between here and there. On august 24th I started a 78 day streak which ultimately ended up a failure because I laid down, was bored, alone, and bargained with myself that it’s ok or its just this one time. —– On December 27th 2012, I started again and here I am , day 104, absolutely determined and have adopted it as a lifestyle choice, my way of life from here on out.
Also random off topic-ness : I see people using filters and blocking websites…I think it is helpful but I honestly never used it. If you cannot yourself have the mental capacity and discipline to force yourself by your own will and desire to Not fap and not look at porn, then you ultimately will fail NoFap sooner or later. The key is to get that burning desire, that “thing” deep down inside that fuels you and keeps you motivated — that you KNOW you want more than anything and will do anything to get it. It has to be realistic and you have to always strive for it. And guess what? There will be days where you feel down. There will be days like last night where you are so horny you literally are face palming as you stare at the white walls from horniness, there will be some days where you feel like you have blue balls, there will be some days where you are bored and your body automatically seeks to fapping, but guess fucking what? YOU’RE NOT GOING TO DO IT.
Also watch this : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU Then when you have an hour+ watch the yourbrainonporn series 1-6 on YouTube (This one may be boring for some people like some of the friends I recommended it to. It explains things a little bit more in detail. I watched it from beginning to end with amazement)
Also — Here are some things that I personally have experienced from NoFap. This is why I continue NoFap and the thought of Fapping doesn’t even enter my head anymore because I literally have to be insane to pass this shit up and go back to the old me — starting with the things that are most important to me.
Less anxiety. By this I mean I am more at ease. There are many examples to give of this. The most noticeable one when I went on NoFap streaks (I don’t recommend this) and broke them, is for example : I’m in the car and listening to music … Now on NoFap if I play a song I’ll jam out to it and enjoy it without any thoughts or lingering worries…before NoFap, for some reason, I couldn’t really focus on the song because I’d be thinking about stupid shit like “What’s the car next to me thinking?” Or another example is when I talking to someone, I just talk to them and look at them and listen to what they are saying. I won’t have this force to force me to look down, look away, or feel uncomfortable. If anything, it’s the other person.
-> More manly. -> More energy. -> More witty -> More social and outgoing
I get up, go out, and do shit now. PEOPLE HIT ME UP asking me what’s going on. Do you know how wierd that is? Less than a year ago, the only thing that was going on for me was Diablo 3, CODBO2, BF3, CSGO, BLC, and Aion.
Also girls are constantly smiling, men are constantly acknowledging…I can go on and on. Trust me though. DO NoFap.
Give it 90 days. You’re probably going to go through hell but fuck it, you owe it to yourself. You don’t spend any money, you don’t waste any time (YOU GAIN TIME) , and you have nothing to lose but ahem …
90 days. I don’t care what you have to do. Whether you can be self motivated or if you have to do some crazy shit like give your friend $1,000 and tell him to hold it until you ask for it back. Do something drastic — but ultimately what will end up working best is having that burning desire, that will and conviction — You have to want it. This isn’t some fad or a diet, this isn’t something you’re going to think is cool and think about for an hour just because you’re currently bored. This takes dedication and you are more than capable of it.
If you so happen to reach 90 days, without watching porn, without edging, clean and straight, then you can make the choice of stopping NoFap and doing whatever you want. I’m past 90 and i’ll be damned if I ever go back.
Some people say I’m giving all the credit to NoFap and very little or none to myself from the things I have accomplished. I have thought about it and I agree. I’m not saying that my success isn’t partly due to my hard work and effort — just saying that all of this has happened while on NoFap and I find a correlation to it. Whether it is legit or not, it has happened, and I am sharing it with others hoping they are successful with it as well.
And what is successful to me may not be successful to someone else. From the things I posted, there are many other reported benefits of NoFap. For example, many have ED (Erectile Dysfunction) from so much fapping over time. With NoFap, many have fixed this. Others have noticed an improved sex life with their girlfriend/wife. Others have gotten much more free time to improve their business or partake in new hobbies. The exciting thing is : What are the great things that may happen to you?